Anything is fucking possible

If I could go back in time speak to my younger self, just have a cup of coffee with her or in my case when I was younger a blue slushy with sour squirts in it.

I would say…

All those dreams and all those adventures that you want to take, you will, but in a different way. You wont be traveling around the world by yourself, you will be traveling with your beautiful kids and husband who loves you dearly.

Take responsibility for your fuck ups and be truthful about them. Lying gets your no where. Lying its just not worth it.

All those times that you would help others and want something in return, just give and give and give and don’t ever expect anything in return. Treat people that way you want to be treated and those that will do it in return without you asking are the ones that you want in our corner.

You are wild and free, you want to be silly, and make people laugh that does not mean that you are crazy. Be wild and be free!

The world is going to be stressful, there are going to be times where you will think about giving up, don’t my dear. The world is beautiful, you will just have to look at it in a different light.

Be someone who can breathe, and think things through. I know its hard for you. I promise it wont kill you lol Even though you may think it will. When you slow down and think before speaking or think before taking action. It will cause less damage and drama.

Do not waste your time on people that don’t give you the time of day. If you have to constantly start the conversation or constantly ask to hang out with someone, or be the one that’s always putting in the effort. IT IS NOT WORTH IT. Walk the fuck away.

You have the ability to see people for who they are before you get to know them… that feeling you get, that uneasy feeling when you are just standing around people, go with it. That is your gut my dear and that will come in handy when you get older.

You may not see it right now but you are a really good person, you are loyal. I want you to find the courage to be yourself. You will go through all these changes and all these different versions of yourself but don’t ever loose yourself trying to get people to like you. It is not worth it.


Friendships

When you think of the word friendship, what other words in your head pop up?

Names of your friends, kindness, love or memories that you have shared with someone, closeness.

When you look up the word friendship it says

the emotions or conduct of friends; the state of being friends.a relationship between friends.a state of mutual trust and support between allied nations. Via – Google

Key word there… trust.

How many of you can sit down and think of all your friends which one can you truly trust, is it the ones you have known the longest? The ones that you just met but you know they will there for you because they are great company… How well do you really know your friends?

Growing up I had a very best friend, and I mean we did everything together, even dressed the same and cut our hair the same. Two peas in a pod we use to be called. Now once we got to high school we slowly started growing apart. We both made new friends and soon we didn’t hang out anymore. Then I got close with another group of friends. Well in my mind we were close. Then drama and boys got involved and our friendship just went out of control.  Lying, backstabbing and telling secrets that I swore I could trust them with. Turns out I couldn’t.

My dad use to tell me in your life you will have several “friends” you will go through a lot till you find the right ones that fit perfectly. The ones that stay when you are at your worst those are the ones that you keep.

As I got older I realized that friends are not the ones that are just fun to be with, friends are the ones that will be there at your best and at your worst.

Do you have friends that you make up lies to because you are just not feeling up to going out? “Sorry I can’t go out because my uncles second cousin twice removed passed away and I am just to sad to go out” or do you say “Sorry I just don’t want to go out tonight”

Do you have friends that when you tell them “Hey I don’t feel like going out tonight” and they get mad at you and tell you that you’re boring? or “Hey, no problem next time I totally get it” “Is everything okay?”

How many of you can actually say I have a friend that I truly trust to tell your deepest secrets too, friends that you know will not tell anyone?

Not many eh? Me neither. I have 3 that I know that when things get tough they wont back away, they will lend a hand where they are needed and they know when to back away and say “Hey, I am here if you need me”

This day in age real friends are hard to come by. There is so much judgement in the world that I can’t even fathom not having those 3 in my life and they have seen me at my worst! They still stick around!

I want everyone to think real hard, if your life with hitting the fan so to speak. Everything was up in smoke. Which friends would stick around? Which friends would tell you secrets to other people? Really think about it.

Life is to short, to waist your time on people that wont be there for you.

“A real friend is one who walks in when the rest of the world walks out.” – Walter Winchell