Make time, because time doesn’t wait for us.

The past few weeks, it has really hit me that time does not wait for anyone. That it just creeps up on you realizing that it goes by so fast, you blink and its 30 years later. It clearly doesn’t work that way but that’s how it feels.

Growing up it feels like you have all this time. Time to think of what you want to do when you’re older, all the time with your parents. But flash forward you are 30 and married with 4 kids of your own to raise.

You’re parents raise you to the best of their abilities. As a parent myself I have realized that is no easy task. One of the things I have learned is that the moments of reassureness, relief and pride are far in between. When you think you have everything under control something comes creeping in out of no where. It is hard to feel like you are really ‘Succeeding’ at this whole parenting thing.

As I said time doesn’t stand still as we get older so do our parents and I feel like many of us forget this. Many of us say “I am too busy to visit I will soon” Sometimes that soon never comes.

Life should come full circle. Your parents take care of you when you’re young, you should take care of them when they are older. Even if its just by visiting, bringing them tea/coffee. Just by showing them that you appreciated everything that they have done for you and continue to do for you.

You are never too old to want to make your mom proud and I am so happy that mine is proud of me. I am so happy that my mom raised me the way she did because that is helping me truck through being a mom myself. Being a strong woman.

Every day, that we doubt ourselves, they doubted themselves.

But hey we survived, we are here. Repeating everything they have taught us. I got so much by being their daughter. Learning from them, watching them is now a rippling effect with my children.

They taught me not only by teaching and telling but by just being themselves. They showed me how to be happy, how to live a productive and meaningful life. Giving us the ability to survive and thrive.

They taught me before you leave this world to make it a better place for our kids, and to teach our kids to do the same. My parents live every day doing things without wanted gratitude or praise just by doing the right thing giving to others, being their for others. Treating people the way you want to be treated.

Our elders have been through it all and we are just starting. No its not the same world and we may have to tweak it a bit but they gave us the building blocks and we need to build from it.

So much of who we are is because of them. The good, the bad, the ugly. But that all has made us stronger.

The past few weeks I have realized that time is not always there. That with a blink of an eye they could be gone. That we will wish that we did more things. That we had more time.

So make that time now. Go for that coffee. Go for that chat about god knows what. see your parents more. They went from seeing us every day, making our meals, coming to our events. To barely seeing us at all. To be honest thinking about my kids growing up and doing the same would kill me. I want them to visit me as often as they can.

So make the time. Time doesn’t wait for us.

Chores!

There is 6 people living in this house, plus 3 dogs, plus 2 cats and a hamster… so you can imagine how often I am cleaning.

I decided now that the kids are older maybe it is time for a some chores! Before the chore chart the kids were constantly asking for things to do, or that they were bored so I would give them things to do like sweeping or cleaning their rooms or dishes. They would grumble and complain thats going to make me more bored. I found once it was on a chart and they could see which one they were doing it became easier!

If you want to get fancy with this you can! Get a billboard from the dollar store and stickers and fun markers, the more colourful and fun it is the more the kids will be interested!

For the youngest who is 4 I made the chores easier since he’s not tall enough to do most things. For example pick up the toys around the house, grab any laundry on the floor and put it in the laundry basket.

Then my 8 and 10 year olds, I put sweeping, washing the floors, empty the dish washer, put the dishes in the dish washer, wipe the counters, laundry, vacuum the bedrooms, feed the animals. I spread them out throughout the week to they all do a different chore each day but they all do every chore so there is no complaining since we all know they will find something to complain about haha except the youngest. He tries even though the broom is sooo much taller then he is! On top off these chores their rooms need to be clean that is one thing that is on there every day, since I find its important to have a clean room helps you sleep better, and the comfort of knowing that you wont fall and trip over everything once you get out of bed.

Not only does the chore chart help me, it also helps them by having some responsibility around the house. It teaches them how much better they will feel helping mommy out.

Rewards for doing the chores you are probably asking, this part is completely up to you because I know that the reward should be the fact that they are helping you out and also themselves. Some kids it is hard to get them motivated to do those types of things, so you can add if you get stickers on your whole week of doing chores you can have a treat, have a candy jar. Go to the dollar store and grab a bunch of candy and a jar and write Chore Reward Candy on the jar. Place it somewhere they can see it but high enough they wont sneak any when you’re not looking. Even money could be a reward if you are able to do that, just a dollar to put in their piggy bank! Whatever the reward it is completely up to you. It’s all in how you want to get your child motivated to do them. Even get an hour longer on the gaming system or they get to pick the movie this time for movie night!

Make it fun! Put on some music and get them to dance while they are doing the chore. Remember to let them know after they do the chore they are a big help! Thank you so much for helping!

Life got a little easier!

I am a mom with 4 kids, and finding any life hack, or any way possible to make my life just a little easier I will do it!

Going shopping has always been a hot mess for me. Making a list of things that I need, loosing the list or forgetting it at home. People in the store makes me crazy and stressed out or even if you are low are money and you go up and have to put things back. Hey I will admit I have been there! It is embarrassing!

I enjoy shopping online, Amazon, kijiji, varage sale anything possible that I don’t have to endure the stress of going to the store. Plus taking 4 kids into a store when my husband is not home just makes the stress 10 times worse because we all know kids want EVERYTHING. Hey so do I! but it can get out of hand when you say “Sorry not today” then freak out. Everyone gives you dirty looks, one person says “I would never have 4 kids” and it’s just all around horrible experience. Also having a child with ADHD and autism who doesn’t understand that “not today” doesn’t mean no it means just not right now.

One day we were in Walmart my son asked for a toy, I said “not today” and melt down, I was standing in the check out, line behind me, he decided to bolt. Now here I am trying to get him back 3 other kids line behind me everyones looking at me like I have 2 heads.

So I found a way to make my life just a little easier, grocery shopping online and let me tell you, this was a life saver ! Not only did it stop the stress, it helped me save money. WITH Walmart!

Through out the week when I run out of something that I don’t need right then and there I will add it to the list as I go and it saves it to your grocery cart. Instead of making a list that I always loose or forget I am at home making the list in my cart. I check what I need in the comfort of my home and order!

You pick a time slot whatever is convenient to you, plus it says the amount right there! no stress and worrying that will I have enough if you are on a budget! No forgetting something while you are there because you can see whats in your house while adding! If you make meal plans its easy to make it right on there by adding the to the cart what you want for the week! They will pick out all your groceries for you, email you telling you that its all picked out and when they don’t have something that you put in your cart they do their best to substitute it for something similar and the same price!

You drive up to the stops, and call the number, you tell them your name and you’re here for grocery pick up and they bring it right out to you! This is a big help when I have all 4 kids in the jeep and can’t go in.

Also guess what!!! ITS FREE! You pay for the amount of your groceries but the cost of the pick up is free!! Like shut the front door!!

Parenting is hard, life is hard really… anyway possible to make life easier.. DO IT!