Check in on your kids

It has been 2 months, 2 months that we have been in isolation. 

2 months that we have not been able to live a normal life

2 months that we have not been able to visit our friends

2 months that we have not been able to get groceries the same way

2 months that we have not been able to just browse in the stores.

A lot of us have thought about all the things that we are not able to do during this time and we have thought about all the things that we are going to do when all this is over.

But have you truly honestly thought of how your child is feeling during this time? Have you honestly asked them how they are feeling? And got the real answer and not the “I don’t know” or “I guess it sucks?” 

We have praised all the front line workers, we have praised the nurses and the doctors and the ones that have been working still during this horrible time. I thank them! They are doing what a lot of us cannot. 

But have you praised your kids?

Change is hard for us parents, us adults. But can you imagine what it is like to be a child?

This is not like summer that a lot of people have been saying…. Summer you would be able to visit grandparents, go camping, see their friends. 

Summer vacation, their parents weren’t stressed about money, about if they are going to get the food they need without it being substituted or unavailable. 

There was honestly no way that we could fully prepare our kids for something that we had no idea that was going to happen. They don’t have the tools to understand or comprehend what is happening right now. 

They are going through all these new emotions, all these new things, all these new stresses that we were not able to prepare them for. 

On the outside they may be acting like they are okay, on the outside they may be acting like they have this figured out. I am willing to bet they are fighting some demons on the inside that we are not aware of. I am willing to bet they are scared, they are bored, they are going insane just like the rest of us. 

So I am asking you, check in on your child. Really sit down and ask them how they are doing. If they are worried to tell you how they are feeling, or struggle with expressing their emotions like my 9 year old is who has autism, get them to draw you a picture or write a story about someone else who is in isolation, their emotions will come out in that.

Isolation is hard on us, it is harder on them.