As mother’s or women, we are told that we must take care of everyone else before we can take care of ourselves.
Even as far back as the 18th century woman stayed home and took care of the farm and the children. That was our role.
If we decided to do something for ourselves we were considered selfish or a witch.
By constantly taking care of everyone else, you end up losing yourself.
Putting everyone first before yourself doesn’t make you a good mother or wife, you’re not being your best self by not taking care of YOU
You end up just in survival mode. Just simply going through the emotions. Pretending like everything’s okay.
Taking care of yourself doesn’t have to involve spending money. Take a longer bath, read that book that has been collecting dust on your dresser. Do that free online course that you have been wanting to take, or even spend a little money to do something for yourself.
IT IS OKAY!!
Today, I added some 2 things to my amazon cart and freaked out because it was 30 bucks and I went over and over again in my head all the things that the kids said they wanted or needed and I hummed and hawwed at the fact oh maybe I shouldn’t get it. But I did it. I hit the order. I felt a little bad at first but at the same time pretty excited, happy that I got something for myself.
Self care should not be optional.
According to a survey by healthy women and working mothers, 78% of moms put off doing anything for themselves first. Mothers were 5th down the line… they came after their pets even!!
I get it, there is not enough time in the day. I feel at this point that is just an excuse… take some time. Set that time aside. As your spouse, okay it’s time for me time… or even later when everyone is asleep. Have that extra long bath or shower or watch that show you have been dying to watch. Yes you might be tired in the morning but coffee could fix that!
I promise once you take that time for yourself you will feel so much better!